T and I are still studying early, european immigrant life. Reading about pioneer family life, T quote du jour: "So, we are different because you don't cook - Papa does. Well, and you don't really sew, and not late at night. And it's more for us that reading is the center of our family life, not food from an old country. But we're the same in that you do pretty much all of the housework and take care of me most times, and Papa does most of the big outside work. We all do the smaller outside work and take care of the dogs. And I help with sometimes housework and sometimes outside work."
And it's true. The differences are perhaps more subtle than we think, even as we fade ever further away from those early immigrant times and from the land they worked.